Ever been locked in lonely? I mean, as an introvert, I would quickly say that I do not mind being alone. Me, lonely? No way. Solitude refreshes my mind and keeps me at peace. However, in the last 8 weeks, I have had an eye-opening experience that loneliness was really disguised behind my happy.
The new year brought with it lots of soul searching and some big areas that I finally let go of and let God. I had worked really hard at fixing these things in the last few years. I prayed and I fasted, and then I felt God saying: "This one isn't your battle to fight. Be still. Let me take the lead." So, I wrote down the impossible. I then tore up the paper and trashed the evidence. And just like that, I gave it to God. It was out of my hands exactly where it should have been the whole time. You can bet it still tried to creep back into my mind; however, I kept repeating: "This battle isn’t mine, but God's." Over and over and over.
I then watched the impossible meet possible. God sent several angels disguised as family and friends to my doorstep literally at just the right moments. The moments when my loneliness was disguised as happiness. Moments where the weight of the circumstances felt way too heavy to carry alone. Moments that only God could have orchestrated He wanted to carry my loneliness and burden but I was just trying to do it all on my own.
Are you feeling locked into loneliness today? Are you praying that God will send a gang of angel armies to come and swoop you up and let God be God?
Asking for help was exactly the key that unlocked the chains of loneliness for me. God knew who to send, how to fix the impossible, and how to lock me tightly within His arms, within His gaze, within His steps, within His love, and soon within His eternal home.
But... you must first let Him help. Set the pride aside and give the distress signal. I sure am glad I did!
So take a few minutes to settle your heart and mind today. Find a quiet place and allow God to unlock the chains of loneliness, fill those voids with lasting love, and watch Him open new doors. He holds the keys to amazing places of rest and belonging.
You are not alone and you've tried really hard. You are not a failure. You have not disappointed. There really are many things in life only He can heal.
But stay strong because hope exists. The secret is...
Lonely has to leave when you find yourself locked into these 5 places.
1. Locked in His arms.
I love these pictures with my girls. See the common theme in each?
Locked tight in each other's arms...
I am so thankful for the bond that we share. It is tangible. It brings peace in the chaos and it secures our daily steps.
When we realize that we have this same bond and connection with God, we can allow Him to unlock the loneliness as He wraps His arms around us.
Psalm 37: 24 - "Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand."
If we never ask for help or keep trying to figure out things our own way, we will be missing His arms to steady us. Ask for help, reach out your arms, and grab tight to the Master's hands. It is then that He can begin a good work within you.
Philippians 1:6 - "Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
2. Locked in His gaze.
He sees you. But do you see Him?
He sees the tears, he feels your heavy heart, and his gaze is securely fixed on you. You must learn to lock your gaze back to Him. Just as Peter began to sink when he took his eyes off Jesus in the sea; we too must learn to keep our eyes always on Him.
Matthew 14: 29-31 - "Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!” Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”
The same sea that raged around Peter, is the same sea you may find yourself in today. Don't look at the waves or the storm clouds brewing. Fix your gaze on Him and watch His stillness surround you.
3. Locked in His steps.
Psalm 37:23 - "The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way."
There is no need to do this journey alone. God promises to guide your steps. He often sends other believers to step alongside you. Life can be too much to handle on many days. When the doorbell rings, answer. It could be your new walking buddy for the journey that awaits. Easy isn't promised but loneliness won't find you when you are in step with Him.
Galatians 5:25 - "If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit."
4. Locked in His Love.
John 15:9-11 - "As the Father loved Me (Jesus), I also have loved you; abide in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love, just as I have kept My Father's commandments and abide in His love. These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full."
The world promises to hurt you. Friends come and friends go. Even your spouse and children can leave you with big wounds to bandage; however, His love is perfect. It will not leave voids for lonely to live.
5. Locked in His eternal home that awaits.
For anyone buckling under the pressures of this earthly home, remember that you can dream of something greater. As you set your eyes on the prize, you start to drop the lonely areas that you had filled with pointless possessions, you begin to lock in tight to His word, and you anticipate the joy that awaits. Loneliness will have no room in your home.
2 Corinthians 5:8 - "Yes, we are of good courage, and we would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord."
John 14:2 - "In my Father's house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you?"
Maybe you need to change your locks today. Let God free you from being locked in lonely. Be receptive to the ones He sends your way to help you. Spend less time trying to figure it all out alone. Instead, spend more time locking yourself into His arms, His gaze, His steps, His love, and His eternal home that awaits.
I use to be locked in the bondage of loneliness,
trying to secure my future through self-guided emptiness.
As I lost my gaze and found myself sinking,
I longed for belonging and started rethinking.
As I called out to Him in the midst of my brokenness,
He soon found His way to me in His gentleness.
Never a second thought was given to my imperfection,
only true love and sincere Fatherly affection.
As I now find myself locked tightly in His arms,
I'm thankful His grip keeps me secure from many harms.
Now following in his footsteps as I journey to real belonging,
and experience His love in all my deepest longings.
Go share His love with each you meet,
and let no one find their way back to loneliness and defeat.
He fills my voids and heals my pain,
as I dream of my home when eternity I will gain.
Thankful He has the keys to unlock the lonely in me.
❤️,
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